We had the “talk” with our sons tonight. After it was over, my husband said he learned some things…after 5 kids I thought we would have had all the bases covered. 😉 LOL!
It was awesome sharing what the Lord has stored up for them. Even though they didn’t understand everything, we were genuine and were able to discuss what things were meant for and how God intended them to be enjoyed between a husband and wife.
We also shared how certain temptations are going to creep up on them and how they can respond to it. Some things were just so basic and yet so liberating to us, probably more than them.
We want our children to know that God puts certain desires in us for a reason and it is a good thang!
My boys now know they can come to us with absolutely everything. I’d rather they come to us with questions and not worry about being embarrassed than experimenting with strangers.
We felt waiting to tell our child before their wedding night or even middle school was probably too late. Provocative images are everywhere rather we like it or not.
We also used the correct linguistics. It truly helped not be confusing and made it a more mature conversation.
My hubs wasn’t totally comfortable with having the talk but afterwards he was so thankful. It was easier than he thought not to mention totally lighthearted.
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Yeah – birds and bees….. although we did have ‘talks’ with our kids, most things are pretty much covered just by reading the OT books of the Bible and talking things through (depending on ages). Phew – some of these chapters needed some explaining! Gulp! I had a ‘birds and bees’ comment on a post I wrote the other day on my blog (I said ‘isn’t she lovely’ about a ‘cow’….. only for my kids to point out to me after I’d posted that ‘she’ wasn’t a ‘she’. They’re giving me lessons!
I was actually just wondering about that this morning. When would you suggest talking about a period with your daughter? My girls are only 4 and 2, but I don’t know when to talk about it! I don’t want to shock them with it when they’re in 5th grade, like my mom did to me! :s
That’s awesome! The hubby and I are very open and honest with our kiddos too. Don’t want them learning (the wrong way LOL) from their friends on the street. It can be intimidating for all, but they will appreciate it and you can now breathe a bit easier. LOL
We have the talk everyday, mostly at dinner. It was difficult at first but I so did not want to be embarrassed or have my kids too embarrassed to ask questions. So far it is working.
Way to go Mom and Dad. Just the first of many talks to come. Always keep those doors open and may you each be sensitive and do a much better job than we did.
Love you big!
Mom
Sounds like it went well. I’m so glad you’re putting the emphasis on how God created this to be enjoyed in the context of marriage. It’s not something dirty.
I have to say that I’m not looking forward to that, even though it’s coming fast.
I’m just getting ready to have the puberty talk with my oldest and I’m plenty nervous about that.
These talks are so important. Hard, but important.
I’m glad “the talk” went well. That can be a toughy.
Have a great day!
Kim
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Okay,I am keeping tabs on you because I am already dreading this talk. It sounds like you did a fantastic job, though!
Sadly today’s society makes our need to have that talk earlier and earlier..I am glad yours went so well.