Does your husband stress out?
Not sure about other husbands but my hubby has a lot on his plate.
My husband is in our family:
- CEO, CPA and Bug Killer – things his wife will NOT do.
- the Master Smoker and Griller – he will cook and cows flee at his name.
- local Home Depot and Lowes’ Expert aka Tim the Toolman
- Dave Ramsey – ugh. My budget man.
- Bob Costas – knowing enough about sports to keep our team content and keeping up with the game.
- Not to mention his real job – Happy Counselor to the unhappy world and Cheerleader to people whose lives have been hit by hardships
Plus, my husband…
- has a wife who gets a bullet-point all by herself because she has different role altogether and no one can fill it except her hubby. It is so difficult to explain that men from every age since prehistoric times have tried to figure out and are still baffled.
What can I do to help him out with his stress-laden plate?
- Pray for him.
I love praying the Make-Up Prayer for him. It is easy to remember and since I am a multi-tasker it is easy to do each day.
- Laugh with him.
Notice I did not say AT him.
Laughter is so contagious and it just breaks the stress level in our home. We have so much fun making up our own jokes or even at circumstances that are not in our control.
- Give him rewards.
My hubby loves special desserts, love notes hidden in his shoes or hairspray lid, or even just an action movie with me. These are things that we have done that are special in our life.
- Fulfill his love language.
After figuring out what it was, our lives were easier. He is still trying to figure out mine. Ha!
After 15 years, I can honestly say…I’d rather be with him than anyone else on the planet. He is a gift from the Lord. One that I will pray for my sons and daughters to have the same joy and contentment that our relationship brings.
Please share with me in the comments how you help your stressed out husband.
Blessings to you! You are loved!
Rose Salazar says
Some of the best things I can do for my husband are to listen to him without interrupting, remind him of past successes, and tell him that I know he has it in him to get the job done well. Then, just taking his hand and praying out loud brings him a new perspective. Mind you, usually this is all met without a comment except a thank-you, but I see his clarity of mind, and later he’ll tell others how much my encouragement meant to him.
Cherryl P says
I love this list. Thanks
Loved this! I just finished writing an article to post tomorrow about husbands and how we can be a support for them – guess we were both thinking along the same lines. I linked to your article in my post! Pampering our hubbies should be one of our priorities – they still need it! 🙂
Oh, yeah. My husband is stressed out right now. I ask him what I can do to help him. These are his top responses: 1) Cook (I always do anyway); 2) Keep the house clean (I do that anyway); 3) Try not to schedule anything that isn’t absolutely necessary; 4) Help him go to bed at a decent hour; 5) Try not to be stressed myself; 6) Don’t ask him to do anything extra.
We’ve been married 31 years so I pretty much know what to do. It doesn’t take the stress away – it just keeps it from being worse.
Maggie Hogan says
So true!! And practical – love this post.